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How to Lead the Feminine Way
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It may be controversial but I believe that we are moving to a new paradigm in leadership. I believe there is a better way, a more compassionate way, using feminine skills of intuition and understanding.

Leadership in its current and past form has been harsh and strong – all associated with issuing instructions and getting the job done. But the human cost is very high and the results are still not spectacular. Everyday we read about people not being led or managed properly and many managers crying out for development.

In my opinion, again controversial, women are still not taken seriously enough in the workplace. They don’t command equal salaries for the same roles and only a minority seem to make it to the top.

It’s time to change all that. It’s time for women to assert themselves and show just how effective they can be.

It won’t be aggressive and it won’t be copying the way men lead. Women can make beautiful leaders, simply by acknowledging their femininity, rather than apologising for it or trying to hide it. We must celebrate who we are! We are programmed to nurture, to take the lead in a more gentle way and I believe it’s when we try and be masculine, that it tends to unravel. We must be us and lead in our own way.

Use your intuition. Use your understanding. Take time to reflect before making your decisions. Follow your instincts and nurture your team. Don’t waste time and energy on playing political games. Step into your womanhood and know that you are more than capable of inspiring others to follow you. Let’s face it, we’ve been doing it for years, but perhaps under the mantle of ‘mother’ or ‘wife’.

Women are born leaders but will only be truly successful when we do it our way – with the knowledge and wisdom that stretches back centuries. Bring more feminine energy back into the workplace and see the transformation that takes place. Listen more and learn from your team. Celebrate them as individuals and respect their uniqueness. Women have a far greater sense of this than men and we should use this to our advantage.

In case you are wondering, I am not a ‘man-basher’. I don’t hate men – I love them! But I do see the inequalities at work and want women to take their rightful place in the boardrooms of this country.

If you agree with me, please leave a comment on this blog post – I would love to hear from you.

 
 
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The Imperfect Way to Success
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Perfectionism is brutal.

I meet countless would-be entrepreneurs, artists and world-changers who hold themselves back because they need to “do it perfect.” If you’re one of these people, then you know the unfortunate truth:

When you wait to be perfect, you never get it done.

It’s a painful loop, and it often leads to depression, disease, and a nagging feeling that you’re not quite stepping into your life’s purpose.

What you’ll learn today is that recovery is possible! In fact, most successful people I know have carefully cultivated a philosophy that drives them: Imperfect action. In fact, some will tell you that Imperfect Action is the key to their success. I call these people “Imperfectionists.”

What’s an Imperfectionist?

  • An Imperfectionist knows that getting something done is better than waiting to do it perfectly.
  • An Imperfectionist knows that being a Perfectionist is simply an excuse NOT to take action.
  • An Imperfectionist congratulates herself for taking small steps.
  • An Imperfectionist buys herself flowers when she accomplishes something - even if it’s not quite up to her ego’s high standards.
  • An Imperfectionist knows that getting a scary thing done IS the reward. Not the kudos or adoration.

You Might Need to Become an Imperfectionist if…

  • You tell yourself you need to get “just a little more information” before you’ll try something.
  • You have a case of the “Used-to-Be’s.” (“I used to be so good at this!” Or “I used to be so thin!” Or, “I used to write everyday and now look…”)
  • Your mantra to the world is: “I’m just so overwhelmed! There’s too much to do! It’s so hard to be me!”
  • You call friends and co-workers to get sympathy for how hard it is to accomplish your goals and dreams. They often agree, citing how special you are because you have been given so much talent – and how it must be quite a burden.
  • You spend more than one hour per day on Facebook, watching television, or not fully engaging in other addictive activities.
  • At the end of every year, you wonder why you never seem to move any further towards your dreams.
  • You are waiting for your POTENTIAL to finally kick in.

Why Becoming an Imperfectionist Makes You Successful and Happy

Being an Imperfectionist is an Intention.

When you become an Imperfectionist, you finally recognize your ego voice exactly for what it is: Your own personal Success Prevention Expert.

When you become an Imperfectionist, you finally realize how many Success Prevention Experts exist in the world.

When you become an Imperfectionist, you lower the bar – or better yet, remove it altogether. You can then create in the moment without any grade or standard. Ironically, this allows for such freedom and joy that you might end up doing a great job. (Or at least having a great time!)

When you become an Imperfectionist, you place your attention on the project or activity itself. You don’t waste it on obsessing about the outcome. (This paradoxically leads to a higher chance of greatness, and a definite outcome of happiness!)

When you become an Imperfectionist, you get things done imperfectly. You then learn that you can tweak and fix and try again. This process makes you Unstoppable.

When you become an Imperfectionist, you finally understand that there are no mistakes. Just judgments.

Becoming an Imperfectionist doesn’t mean you don’t eventually master your craft or calling – but that’s not the starting goal.

How to Become an Imperfectionist

1 – Imperfectly pick one thing you keep telling yourself you want to do.

2 – If you read #1 and think, “I can’t possibly pick just one! There’s too many!” then do not proceed until you have picked just one.

3 – Get a timer, and set it to 55 minutes.

4 – Walk away from your computer right now and spend 55 minutes doing that very activity.

5 – Repeat #4 again tomorrow.

6 – Repeat #4 again every day after that until the item is complete.

7 – Celebrate the item’s completion with chocolate, flowers, or a manicure.

8 – Go back to #1 and start over.

An Imperfect List of Things You Can Do Imperfectly

  • Imperfect Writing
  • Imperfect Teleseminars
  • Imperfect Meditation
  • Imperfect Romance
  • Imperfect Video Blogs
  • Imperfect Vacations
  • Imperfect Scrapbooking
  • Imperfect Launches
  • Imperfect Dinner Parties
  • Imperfect Affirmations

Add your own items to this list as needed. Find a way to let yourself experience them without judgment. And listen to this recovering perfectionist when she tells you that your success is guaranteed when you live by this principle!

Christine Kane is the Mentor to Women Who are Changing the World. She helps women uplevel their lives, their businesses and their success. Her weekly LiveCreative eZine goes out to over 20,000 subscribers. If you are ready to take your life and your world to the next level, you can sign up for a F.R.E.E. subscription at http://christinekane.com.

 
 
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